I only realized it was Valentine’s Day when I turned on the television to watch the winter Olympics. I immediately turned to Hannah and said “Happy Valentine’s Day, I love you.” She replied in kind. She seemed equally surprised to discover it was Valentine’s Day, which was a relief to me because I imagined she had forgotten to buy me a gift—just as I had forgotten to buy her one.
A few hours later I walked into our bedroom to find a beautifully wrapped package on our bed, card and all. It was a great gift, but there was a better one still to come, which was Hannah’s reaction when I told her I forgot to buy her a gift. She just laughed. No blame, no “what does this mean about our relationship?” and no scene.
The gift I really received this year was her grace.