ReRight Your Life, An Introduction to Reology

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This award winning book provides a clear road map for you to change your life. If you practice the concepts and tools being shared in this book——that you won’t find elsewhere——you will change your life. You will learn to create a new kind of inner dialogue that gives you a greater sense of control and emotional clarity. You will learn a new way to speak with other people that eliminates conflict and confusion. The result is that you will simplify your life and create healthier, more nourishing relationships.

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This award-winning book is an invitation to change your life. By learning to use the tools of Reology you can move past your core-limiting patterns, discover the meaning of your life, individuate from your family of origin, and learn a new way to communicate that eliminates conflict and allows you to create clear emotional boundaries.

This book was previously published as Speak Love Not War, and although a great deal of the content remains the same, several chapters have been updated to introduce the reader to Reology and ReSpeak.

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19 reviews for ReRight Your Life, An Introduction to Reology

  1. Mike Bundrant

    Jake Eagle has introduced a truly surprising and fresh new approach to psychology, which he calls Reology. Through his personal experience and tragedies, I can feel Jake’s commitment to this new paradigm of radical respect for the “emotional footprint” we all leave behind in our interactions with ourselves and others.

    Many books claim to offer a new paradigm for personal development, but few offer the tools that honestly deliver the new paradigm into the mix of daily life and struggles. The key here is ReSpeak, a new way of using language that transforms your experience in the very act of putting it into words. The language seemed a bit awkward at first, but soon sunk in. As I have pondered my life using ReSpeak and shared it with my wife and a few friends, we have been impressed with how it changes our feelings, especially when it comes to tense or potentially conflictual interactions. My 16-year-old son even commented, “Dad if everyone at school used this language, 90% of the problems on campus would vanish.” Personal responsibility, empowerment and respect for others are simply built into the structure of communication with no additional effort required! This is an elegant solution that I have never encountered anywhere.

    Well done, Mr. Eagle. I will be passing this along to as many people as I can.

  2. Jobie Summer

    There are many great philosophers and teachers out there but the way Jake Eagle connected this book with his personal journey made it so delicious to read. He wrote this book as a conversation with his brother and personalized it so beautifully that it brought realness and relevance to the movement of Reology. As you read this book you will not only learn the theory of Reology but you will see how ReSpeak (the language of Reology) transforms relationships right before your eyes. What a precious, graceful way to teach the essence of ReSpeak.

    I engaged myself so deeply in the teachings and in the closeness I felt to Jake and to his journey that I continued reading until I was done. I couldn’t put it down and finished it in one day. The book has taken the work of Reology to the next level and makes it so approachable and understandable. This book is truly life changing.

    I recommend this book for those who are ready to truly embrace their zest for life. The teachings of ReSpeak are about taking full responsibility for ourselves and our actions and it all starts with our use of language. May you enjoy this book and may it bring exponential growth to your life as it has for me.

  3. William Underwood (verified owner)

    This is a great read. Particularly, if you’re interested in learning about what it takes to live fully, assume complete accountability for your actions, reactions, and well-being. Through an intimate dialogue with his ailing brother, Jake explains Reology in a very accessible manner. In his conversations with his brother, I clearly appreciate the idiom – “you are what you say.” Jake describes Reology in everyday language, and demonstrates how our everyday use of language can cause us to disassociate ourselves from owning our own reactions and feelings. I find his connections between semantics and sanity come from a similar linage as Korzybski’s Science and Sanity, however, ReRight Your Life takes another step toward clarifying just how our talk affects what we experience; and how the way say we speak affects the way we relate to others and to the world.

  4. Michael Friess

    I inspire myself with this book. I see the style as a merging of autobiography (family background), fiction (“written as a conversation”) and knowledge. I feel comfortable with this approach having enjoyed myself with authors such as Richard Bach, James Redfield, Robert Pirsig and Neale Donald Walsch.
    I hear Jake explaining
    – how human society nowadays needs to grow to overcome the obstacles we created
    – how this can be achieved by personal growth from a ego-centric, ethno-centric to a world-centric perspective
    – and how a a specific way of using language can help us individuate on this path
    By the world-centric view I connect Jake with other authors sharing a similar viewpoint (though eluding completely different knowledge) e.g. Bruce H Lipton and Gunter Dueck.
    I interpret Reology and ReSpeak as Jake’s individuation of what John & Joyce Weir originally developed.
    I read somebody writing that John Weir would have said of this work: “He’s doing himself. He’s doing the best he can with what he’s got. That’s all he can do.” And I fully agree! This is exactly how I experience and rate this book: he did the best he could – profound, honest and individuated.
    I especially value this book as I see it revealing the concepts, simple guidelines and (in itself) example of a language (be it Percept, ReSpeak, E-in-Sich-T or other) for individuation and making it available to a large audience.
    I thank Jake for this book.

  5. Pat Wartell

    What is it I want from reading a book? I want an experience, I want to know that the writer has given himself completely, I want to immerse myself and lose myself in the reading, and I want to change and expand myself as a result. Jake Eagle’s book “ReRight Your Life” certainly brought all that to this reader. I have Jake writing how he lives. I often think “self-help” books suggest a way of living that the author doesn’t truly invest in. Jake truly invests in Reology and ReSpeak and I have his relationships and life enriched as a result.

    If we take full responsibility for ourselves, it starts with our words. I have the practice of ReSpeak be a kinder and gentler approach. If we take responsibility for ourselves we can relate honestly with anyone and bring clarity to our interactions.

    This is a wonderful book – one that you’ll want to read over and over again!

  6. Mary Eloisa

    The first sentence of this book is a heart felt offer of a gift. A gift that offers an approach that will lead to a peaceful coexistence within oneself and with others that we relate to. ReRight Your Life beautifully delivers this gift through personal and radically honest conversations between Jake and his brother Tom.

    The intimacy of the relationship between the brothers tugs at my heart and the depth and potential value of Reology speaks to my soul. Through these conversations, and considerate use of language, Jake is able to create a clear method by which we can all enrich our relationships and free ourselves from self-created limitations and blame.

  7. Marilynn Freeman

    Through a fast-paced dialogue, Jake addresses a number of significant questions and topics that we all encounter, such as the meaning of life, clarifying what is it that we value most, how to relate to others in a way that expresses who we really are and what we want. The questions he asks and the answers he offers challenge our psyche and inspire us to learn a new way of communicating. He offers a fresh perspective on healthier ways to relate to others. Many of us spend our lives recounting or listening to a daily victim story. By altering our language and perspective through ReSpeak and the principles of Reology, we can learn to tell a different version of the same story that empowers us. If peace is what I value in myself and in the world, then this book is an excellent tool for taking responsibility for oneself and transformational shift.

  8. Lars Strong

    I have transformed my life with the practice of Reology and ReSpeak. I say practice because ReSpeak is available to us in every moment we communicate or form ideas. If we are talking to another, thinking, or even dreaming, we can use ReSpeak to be in the present moment, empower ourselves, and respect others.

    As an engineer and public speaker I have made my professional relationships more productive and rewarding. My personal relationships have become more respectful, honoring, creative, and passionate. As a yoga instructor I made subtle shifts in the way I use language and am rewarding myself so much, and my students are revealing profoundly deeper experiences of themselves.

    I had participated in 7 Reology Retreats before reading the book. I see the book as a fabulous introduction to the principals of Reology and the practice of using ReSpeak. I am sure many will find new and healthier ways to relate simply from reading the book, and I know from experience that the benefits of Reology and ReSpeak deepen with immersion that comes from attending a Reology Retreat.

    The concepts presented in this book can be applied to any teaching. I have done this with many things I studied in the past, and have integrated the previous teachings more deeply, found and felt much more than I did without having the Reology orientation. This happens because of how ReSpeak supports an internal experience.

    With hope that this material reaches many leaders and teachers of all sorts,


  9. EFC

    In “ReRight Your Life,” Jake Eagle teaches Reology’s concepts through the recounting of actual conversations that he had with his dying brother, an approach which I found to be both creative and moving. I’ve never read a self-help book that allows the reader to learn just by being a fly on the wall, so to speak. Reading the book felt almost like watching an engaging documentary.

    I am generally turned off by self-help books because most of them suffer from platitudes and questionable theory, but this one is an exception, and I believe that its underlying philosophy could solve a lot of the world’s problems if the world would dare to embrace it. Achieving peaceful relations on a global scale, however, is merely wishful thinking, in my opinion. It’s much more practical to apply the principles of Reology to one’s own life and interpersonal relationships. Unlike other books, where the reader is expected to improve himself or herself in isolation, which may actually attract conflict if he or she is successful, this book encourages the reader to discover and utilize Reology “with a companion, partner, or friend. For although we alone are responsible for ourselves, we live our lives with others–synergistically and interactively–using reflections of ourselves to guide and shape our growth.”

    I didn’t give the book 5 stars because I found the language of ReSpeak to be rather awkward and believe that it would be more effective as a tool for internal dialogue, as opposed to using it in communications with people who are unfamiliar with the construct. Obviously, if you’re practicing ReSpeak with a friend or partner, then this won’t be an issue. On the other hand, if you start talking ReSpeak with the uninitiated, and people comment on your odd manner of speaking or ask for clarification, you may be able to use that as way to introduce others to Reology. I don’t have the personality to be able to pull this off without alienating people, but maybe you do.

    Other than the parts of it that I perceived to be awkward, I did enjoy the book very much. The chapters on “individuating” and “living according to one’s values” were the most meaningful to me because I came across this book after having already done the work to “ReRight” my life. (While I didn’t use Reology to get there, I used a similar process, and I feel confident in saying that the methods described in the book can be very effective.) Unfortunately, my own personal journey to happiness and self-actualization was met with hostility from a narcissistic parent, and it took me several years to figure out that I wasn’t the one with the problem. It wasn’t until I read Jake Eagle’s book that I discovered that there’s a word for what I was going through: individuation. It’s what healthy people do, and new parents would be wise to pick up this book and take note. (I’m not sure that there’s much hope for older parents with grown children, but it’s worth a shot.)

    Thank you, Mr. Eagle, for the moments of clarity that I experienced while reading your book. And thanks for the laughs, too. That story about the nun was hilarious.

  10. Michele Ouellet

    REology, REspeak…RElearn and REconnect

    I survived childhood abuse only to victimize myself by allowing the past to cast a huge shadow over the present.

    For me, REology is about taking responsibility for myself, my feelings, my actions and my reactions. It is about re-learning how to talk to myself and to others using a thoughtful process. A process I believe will lead me to a gentler, more compassionate relationship with myself and the people in my life.

    Jake Eagle has written this book for those of us who are seeking to connect or re-connect with the spirit within us and for those of us seeking a path to attaining balance in our lives by working toward emotional maturity.

  11. D. Miescke

    Add this book to your “must read” list. I found so much wisdom in this short, compelling recounting of the last conversations Jake, the author, had with his brother Tom. Like so many siblings, they were different enough that they never got to know each other deeply when they were growing up, or even as adults. That is, they were distant until Tom was hospitalized with an inoperable tumor. Tom enjoyed passing time by asking Jake to explain what his new book was about. The Reology concepts are unfolded and examined by the brothers. The chapters are well-paced with really interesting ideas that keep the pages turning. I urge you not to wait until someone is on their deathbed before using these methods of living in a mature, healthy manner. There are simple things I do now after reading this book that enrich my relationships with everyone. I’ve learned to take responsibility for my emotions by using my language in a specific way that you learn about in this book. Any reader of “ReRight Your Life” will find something valuable to take with you on your life’s journey.

  12. Sandy K. Kuehl

    ReRight Your Life by Jake Eagle was like living into a touching and moving learning experience of how to think, speak, and relate more effectively for me. Unique and important.

  13. Way

    Rewrite your life has allowed me to see the world & myself totally differently. It is as if I have finally
    been able to clean the dirt off my glasses. This book has started me on a new journey of doing my
    life in a happier, more productive way. Can’t recommend it highly enough.

  14. Diana Blinda

    I love this book! So interesting, so very helpful for me. I read it at the right time for me, I even decided to read it again.

    I found it very easy to read and its keeping you there, focused on the subject.

  15. Vivian E. Wadkins

    it is a great introduction to a different way of life. It is more flexible then how most people conduct their lives.

  16. John D. Rudometkin

    An honest dialogue about taking responsibility for your life and growing up–wether you’re 25 or 75. I recommend this read.

  17. Deborah in Abq

    I’ve been a fan of personal responsibility for a long time, but the concepts presented in Reology takes it to a whole new level. As I embark on a new relationship, I can see how using the tools I just learned could be the difference between another failure and a level of success I had given up hoping for.

  18. J.M.

    I was given this book by a friend and psychotherapist colleague following the recent loss of my marriage. With this book I’ve helped myself clarify what thoughts and behaviors of mine were not conducive to a long term healthy marriage, and now I have allowed myself to happily transition to a new more mature and healthier life perspective! I recommend this book to anyone experiencing a major life change which has thrown you off balance or wanting to experience a healthier more mature intimate relationship.

  19. Gayle

    As a Masters’s level therapist/counselor and hoarder of resources, I have accumulated the equivalent of the entire self-help section at Barnes & Noble. I would trade just about every one of those books for this one. If you enjoyed Victor Frankel’s Man’s Search for Meaning you will love this book. Written as a conversation between brothers, it is both interesting and easy to read. The concepts presented are eloquent, beautiful, quite easy to understand and put into practice. I will be recommending this book to my clients and family.

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