The four patterns represent what we do within ourselves when we experience too much stress in our lives. We all do one or more of the following:
1) Confuse ourselves
2) Overwhelm ourselves
3) Conflict ourselves
4) Depress ourselves
The first three patterns develop during the first six years of life. The pattern of depressing ourselves develops a bit later, usually between the ages of seven to our early teen years. I’m not going to say much about the pattern of confusing ourselves, because I’m referring to a degree of confusion that is quite extreme and if you’re reading this, it doesn’t apply to you.
Negative core beliefs are offshoots of one of the core patterns listed above. Notice if any of the following negative core beliefs sound familiar:
“I’m unable to cope.”
“I’m paralyzed with too much to do.”
“I feel split, torn inside, unable to decide.”
“I know what I need to do, but I can’t make myself do it.”
“I don’t see anything hopeful in my future.”
“I have nothing I really care about.”
There are many negative beliefs we carry in our heads. Generally, we play “whack-a-mole,” chasing one symptom or one negative belief . . . whacking it, then chasing the next one that pops up. This is an exhausting way to bring about our growth and resolution of our negative core beliefs.
A more effective strategy is to understand the origins of our negative beliefs—our core pattern—and focus on resolving and healing those patterns. How do we do that? It depends on our core pattern. If we overwhelm ourselves we must learn to create healthier emotional boundaries. If we conflict ourselves we must learn to accept parts of ourselves that we have previously rejected. If we depress ourselves we must reexamine our life scripts and create new ones.
Live Conscious provides a means for addressing each of our core patterns. If you have particular questions, please post them on our website and I’ll respond.